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23Oct/095

Date weight and "hot girl" jeans

Ladies, you know what I mean by "hot girl" jeans.

Viv, over at Bread and Boys (my new favorite single-girl blog), just wrote a really great post on date weight. She writes:

But the term “date weight” takes the form of many names. Among some girls it’s also known as the “Hey baby” weight. It’s different for every girl, but it’s the size & shape you achieve when random people on the street eye you once-over and yell “Hey baby!”

Last summer, I was on fire. Well, as "on fire" as I get. Dudes were all over me, as much as dudes are ever "all over me." But I dated two guys that summer and smooched a third that year. I haven't done that well since college. I've been wondering why this year, I'm so off my game. Or rather, why I have no game. When I read Viv's post, I realized it's because I'm no longer at my "Hey baby" weight.

Like her, no one in their right mind would call me big. But I was running a lot more last year. I was fit and strong, and, probably more important, I was confident--I knew I looked pretty good.

The barometer of my "Hey baby"-ness became my pair of skinny "hot girl" jeans. When I bought them, they were like a trophy--a recognition of my physical accomplishments. I wore them out a lot last summer, and I looked gooooooood. By November, I could fit into the hot girl jeans, and they looked...fine. I wore them to a holiday party in December and kept asking my friend, "Do you really think I can pull these off? Maybe I should run home and change." (Yeah, I was that girl. Annoying.) By January, they were not to be worn in public.

And that's about where I've been ever since. Time to start hitting the pavement! I need to get my game back. Time's a-wastin'.

Photo by bluryee. CC 2.0.

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a girl that likes bread
October 25th, 2009 - 18:06

wow! i’ve never been quoted before! thanks so much for reading, and that i’m actually entertaining you with my writing. because i’ve figured out that my blog falls under the larger category of guilty pleasure. people are reading it, but no one wants to comment or acknowledge they’re reading! silly people…
E
October 27th, 2009 - 06:32

Do you think it is your appearance or your attitude/confidence level that makes a difference? I.e. if right now you *felt* hot, would you get the same level of attention?
Nicole
October 30th, 2009 - 09:57

I absolutely think it’s both. The confidence is more important, though. Not only does it signify that you’re in a better place mentally (which is, of course, far more important than meeting dudes), but it feels like the confidence is what guys notice. Once you have his attention, it helps to have the hot bod to back it up. :-)
Katie
November 4th, 2009 - 11:44

For the record, you ARE hot! No question about it. But on the topic of running, let’s hit the pavement! Our 1/2 marathon is looming, and I need to drop the ‘post-baby pounds’. I’m ready when you are.
a girl that likes bread
November 9th, 2009 - 21:20

i think it’s partially confidence level AND how you actually look. but since a healthy portion of my confidence comes from how i look, i’m more able to stare people down straight in the eye all sexly when i know i look daymn hot. let’s say i put on lipgloss because it makes ME feel better, less for other people.