Comments on: Date 7: The setup, aka Present your best self | Baby Step #3

By: E

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 20:48:22 +0000

This was such an interesting and well written post. I’m interested to see what happens, because you were trying to put your best self forward even if you realized later it wasn’t your favorite or ideal self. It didn’t sound like he was trying at all. I’m all for second chances, but you *tried*. Did he try? Maybe, maybe not. Please update us!

By: chris

chris — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 13:27:06 +0000

I hope he’s not a total waste of your time in date #2. As somebody who is pretty dry at first myself, I think that date #2 is usually a lot more open. But I do know a lot of people who *really are* that dry (I know many, many engineers). Did he at least have some kind of sparkle in his eyes, something that says: the lights are on, but I get nervous about answering the door? I think it is totally OK to be nervous the first time, you are being judged, and for a lot of people that is scary or insulting or worse. But when somebody says that they are interested in talking to you a second time, you should open up a lot more. Maybe your friend can give him a little confidence boost, say something like, “It sounds like your date went well, I hear you are going to meet up with her again.” Just my two cents.

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 05:05:19 +0000

Wishing you good luck! I hope he rises to the occasion!