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Maybe I should move…

SF Weekly recently ran an article on how difficult it is for ladies in SF to find guys to date (spoiler alert: not even the pickup artists they hired could help). Among the other details I already knew, there was this shocking bit of math:

As of 2008, San Francisco had a total population of 808,976, including 93,820 single men and 83,840 single women aged 20 to 40.

Based on the best estimates by the Department of Public Health, there are around 65,000 gay men and about 27,000 lesbians living in San Francisco. Assuming that many of them are single (remember Proposition 8?), we calculated that 36 percent of single men in this city are gay and 18 percent of single women are lesbians.

After factoring in that information, there are 60,045 single heterosexual men and 68,749 single heterosexual women in the age range we examined.

There are roughly 8,700 more single straight women in San Francisco than single straight dudes. No wonder it's so hard to find guys to date.

Also, ladies, I hear Alaska and Colorado have a lot of guys. Maybe about 8,800 of you should move there, because I don't want to have to quit my band. Just an idea.

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Sonia
March 11th, 2010 - 16:20

I don’t know if this helps, but my fiance was living in Burlingame when I met him. Maybe there are more single guys in the East Bay and down the Peninsula. Then you don’t have to quit your band and move!
Lisa
March 11th, 2010 - 18:29

If you want to meet single guys with jobs, just go to downtown Mountain View at lunchtime. They’re mostly fashion challenged software engineers, but you could do worse.
Kate
March 11th, 2010 - 21:54

Interesting suggestions. I have always wanted to peek at the Google cafeteria.
a girl that likes bread
March 12th, 2010 - 10:59

HA! i read this article too…actually you couldn’t pry it out of my hands when i was reading it! and after meeting these pick up artists, i have VERY mixed feelings about it. i think girls can learn a thing or two from their repertoire, but i really mean that — just a couple. i’ve actually been a really aggressive dater in the past, and just like some of those boys in the article, they saw it as a completely turnoff. even if many boys joke and say how they’d LOVE if a girl just grabbed them by the shirt collar and kissed them or whatever (like an AXE commercial)….it’s a random one-off fantasy and not necessarily the girl they’d like to date.
N
March 13th, 2010 - 16:25

Viv, I totally agree. Guys say they want girls to make moves–and maybe some do–but most guys seem to still want to be a little more of the pursuer. They’ll acquiesce is a girl makes all the moves (or most of them), but it’s just that–acquiescence. You might not be hungry, but if someone puts a slice of pizza in front of you, you’ll probably eat it. But if it’s too easy, then they get used to not putting in effort (and you can’t blame them for it, really. That’s how the terms were set up at the beginning!), and it doesn’t (often) blossom into a balanced relationship.

The tricky thing about being a single girl is that your main job seems to be to let a guy know that, if he make a move, you will be receptive.

Sonia, I am hoping that the outer boroughs will be more promising! I really don’t want to move. I need to start hanging out in Oakland, I guess. Or find where in the city the bridge-no-tunnel guys hang out. :-)